What Being a Kajira Means to Me – essay by Fliss (slave of Master Eldin)

Within the House of Runo we have lessons that the slaves must complete as they advance up through the levels of Hor in Training to becoming and Elite Hor.  Sometimes a girl completes a lesson so exceptionally that it must be preserved.  What follow is an essay written by Fliss Fairport as slave owned by Master Eldin Stonecutter.  Master Gorm Runo was so impressed by this essay that he asked it be included here.


Beginner Lesson #11
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Write an essay on what being a kajira means to you. This essay does not have a word count, please use however many words you feel you need to, to express your thoughts on what being kajira means. NC the essay and turn it to the Lessons Box!


Fliss Chained

 

[ K A J I R A ]

“Suddenly, the world I had scrutinised for so long was all around me, as if I had leaned forward and climbed into the television like Alice through the looking-glass. I had no idea just how deep the rabbit hole would go. ~ Simon Pegg

The idea of consensual slavery is not new to me. However, i didn’t ever think i would use ‘slave’ to describe myself. That, at the most basic, is ‘kajira’, she is slave. However, slavery, wholehearted, exquisite, beautiful slavery which seeks to please and honour and bring joy to the One she serves, is not basic.

It is not easy to be slave. It is not a decision to be taken lightly nor one to enter into without the steel to withstand the emotional roller-coaster, the descent into the rabbit hole, that it entails.

 

I choose to be kajira, i choose my slavery and that comes with a breadth of things i now need to embrace.

 

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[ W H O L E S E L F ]
✤ Heart ✤ Mind ✤ Spirit ✤ Body ✤

“To be great, be whole;
Exclude nothing, exaggerate nothing that is not you.
Be whole in everything. Put all you are
Into the smallest thing you do.
So, in each lake, the moon shines with splendor
Because it blooms up above.”
― Fernando Pessoa

 

The pick and mix is one of the most exiting bits of a trip to the cinema. So much choice, all thrown into one over-sized, paper cup and, in the dark of the movie theatre, you never quite now what sweet you’re going to pull out. Consensual slavery, however, is not a pick-and-mix (although there’s plenty of dark mystery and excitement to make up for it). To be kajira, one offers everything to the Owner. Your thoughts, emotions, actions, hopes, body are all now His. On the plus side, you are released from the worry of editing who you present to be in order to be ‘acceptable’, or second guessing whether you are really truly wanted. You are owned. However, you retain responsibility to ensure that who you are and what you offer is now looked after and honed, to the best of your ability, in stewardship of His property.

A kajira needs to find love and confidence in herself, if only to find sufficient motivation to care for what is no longer hers to damage through neglect or self-condemnation. No amount of ownership or reassuring words will heal the wounds that everyone carries, not even the most powerful of Masters can fix a broken heart or a damaged ego. However, in trusting that ownership is complete, it is possible to practice disciplines of self-care that can heal and mend, that can recondition and make whole. If that trust in Ownership cannot be given, a girl will never be able to be the best for her Master; if she longs for a saviour to heal her wounds or save her from herself, the likelihood is she will be sorely disappointed and possibly even drag her Master down with her.

A kajira therefore needs to be ready to commit to self-improvement, to grow and flourish. Only then will the exquisite beauty she’s expected to project, inside and out, be able to manifest in her. How one flourishes is as unique as each kajira but neglecting any part of herself, her body, mind, heart or soul, will be to neglect her Owner’s property. It is not enough to be beautiful on a screen or to understand the philosophy of Gor, inside and out, if one neglects chores or body in RL. While, for many in an SL context, the Master-slave dynamic does not bridge the screen and it remains firmly between two avatars, the kajira still has a responsibility for the real person behind the keyboard, to communicate clearly with her Owner, to ensure that her availability online is supported by her self-care offline. This is no different where the dynamic shifts into RL.

Honor to please
[ T O T A L O B E D I E N C E ]
✤ Trust ✤ Submission ✤ Ownership ✤

Thus if you have really handed yourself over to Him, it must follow that you are trying to obey Him. But trying in a new way, a less worried way. Not doing these things in order to be saved, but because He has begun to save you already. Not hoping to get to Heaven as a reward for your actions, but inevitably wanting to act in a certain way because a first faint gleam of Heaven is already inside you.”
― C.S. Lewis

Central to a kajira’s identity is the call for obedience; unquestioning, immediate obedience. The time for deciding whether you want to submit to that level passed once you entered into the dynamic you are now in. i am not role-playing being a kajira. i am not pretending that i had no choice and was brought against my will to Gor in order to be Owned by a cruel and barbaric Master (no matter what my profile and ‘journey to Gor’ says, nor how cruel and barbaric He might actually be).

I have chosen to be kajira, when that choice happened i am not sure, but in choosing to be a kajira, i am now expected to be obedient. This comes with trust. Trust that my Master will not ask me to do what will damage His property, detrimentally impact RL or push beyond what i am able to obey. I trust, when He releases me to serve another, that the honour among Gorean men that *He* trusts, will equally keep me safe from real harm.

I wear a collar. It was not a collar that was fastened around my neck against my will, though i may have been somewhat dazed by the intensity of the whirlwind, force of nature that is my Master. His collar of Ownership is an outward symbol of our invisible dynamic. So, as kajira, i submit. I submit to His owning, Body, Mind and Heart, with second dibs on my Soul. I acknowledge His right to control me, to make demands on me, to order me and to be generally bossy and i submit to the expectation that i will be unquestioningly and immediately* obedient.

As an owned slave, submitting to the will of her Owner, i own nothing, not even my name, and i may decide nothing. I am fortunate in my ability to trust the Man who owns me. I know that, in giving Him control, i am in excellent hands.

*unless it amuses Him for me to be a little defiant, on the right side of the line.

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[ A T T I T U D E ]
✤ Service ✤ Acceptance ✤ Love ✤

“There are two basic motivating forces: fear and love. When we are afraid, we pull back from life. When we are in love, we open to all that life has to offer with passion, excitement, and acceptance. We need to learn to love ourselves first, in all our glory and our imperfections. If we cannot love ourselves, we cannot fully open to our ability to love others or our potential to create. Evolution and all hopes for a better world rest in the fearlessness and open-hearted vision of people who embrace life.” — John Lennon

Consensual non-consent is definitely a part of the dynamic i share with my Master. We will roleplay for fun and frolics with monsters and beasts and tentacles…because it is fun, because it brings Him pleasure and makes Him laugh and growly. However, though i will defy Him and say ‘no’ to Him, my attitude must always be one of pleasing alertness.

i watch my Master. i listen to His tone, His stories, His expectations and i flex and react according to His need. my own wants and desires come second to what is pleasing to Him. One of the main reason Gor makes sense to my slave-heart is that it accepts and encourages my innate yearning to please

It is important i say, at this point, that i believe i am very fortunate, that my Owner wants me to be totally honest and unedited, to share what i hope for and what i desire. He is very present and engaged and demands the same of me. This is not always the case for a Master/slave dynamic and RL does not always allow His level of attention and care. So, while He is in charge, His needs and wants are my priority and i seek to be pleasing to Him, i do so with total security that my needs and hopes are never disregarded, as long as i am open and articulate them.

The attitude then, as kajira, is key. A kajira must strive for excellence, to be the best version of herself she can be. Ironically, in an essay full of ‘i’ statements’ i do try to ensure there is no ‘i’ in slave (that wouldn’t have worked if if i had written ‘kajira’!). Masters deserve the best a girl can offer. He is honoured in our striving to improve dance or creative writing skills, or when i work on His homestead to make it a gloriously beautiful place with places to play and sit and inhabit. i honour Him when i work hard to overcome my inclination to hide my less-than-perfect bits and am raw and open and vulnerable. i honour Him when i am alert to His needs and wants, when i am pleasing without His ordering it, when i obey, even if it is difficult. i honour Him when i take myself for a walk in RL or remember to pack my lunch.

I wear a brand. The brand is an outward sign of this inner attitude, the attitude of attentive desire to please.

Capacity to love
[ R E V E R E N C E ]
✤ Adoration ✤ Respect ✤ Honour ✤

“That love is reverence, and worship, and glory, and the upward glance. Not a bandage for dirty sores. But they don’t know it. Those who speak of love most promiscuously are the ones who’ve never felt it. They make some sort of feeble stew out of sympathy, compassion, contempt, and general indifference, and they call it love. Once you’ve felt what it means to love as you and I know it – the total passion for the total height – you’re incapable of anything less.” — Ayn Rand

A kajira is not obligated to love every Master that she serves. She does not have to fall head-over-heals in order to bring her best to her service. However, to allow love and reverence to rise up in her, to drive her steps, the touch of her hand, the roll of hip and neck, then she soars in her submission. It is not dependent on being made to feel loved, it is a state of mind that acknowledges that she is made to offer pleasing, loving worship of the men she offers service to.

As i’ve already said, in being my best, i bring honour to my Master, so too, in allowing love and reverence to work their way through my self-perception and my actions, these light-forces become the pull that feeds attentiveness and the desire to rise above the self-centered ‘i’, the self-serving ego and they force out the darknesses, the petty jealousies and resentments that have no place in a kajira’s heart.

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[ S E R V I C E ]
✤ Openness ✤ Attentiveness ✤ Pleasure ✤

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.” — Mahatma Gandhi

A kajira, whatever role she is trained for, whatever her Master might order of her, is called to service. Attentiveness and desire to please obviously play a part in that, as does the striving for excellence and alertness to the whims and desires of those she serves.
Service is effortful; paying attention to external information, be they orders or the environment, slight changes in mood or the long-term gathering of information to inform your service, to serve is to take time and shape what you offer to the preferences of those you serve. It is evident when this time and effort has been taken, for example, knowing how a Master likes His paga, because you have asked and retained the information (even if it is in a notecard because your memory is notoriously bad), matters, details matter.

It is a kajira’s responsibility to be alert, ready and flexible, to gather information, to learn skills to please and entertain, to add to the community in which her Owner resides and spends time. It is not enough to have a beautiful avatar if, in turn, you don’t seek a variety of ways to offer service. This is how we are pleasing and how our beauty extends beyond the superficial, surface level of our pixels.

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[ S L A V E H E A T ]
✤ Lust ✤ Joy ✤ Surrender ✤

“I’m not in search of sanctity, sacredness, purity; these things are found after this life, not in this life; but in this life I search to be completely human: to feel, to give, to take, to laugh, to get lost, to be found, to dance, to love and to lust, to be so human.”
— C. JoyBell C.

i was very much a product of middle-class, British, protestant puritanism. Sex has been a source of angst and fear, need and want, confusion and confliction…and yet, it has been how i express love, feel connected enjoy and embrace my body, in all its imperfections and beauties. The journey of becoming kajira, and the self-awareness and exploration that has come with it, has thrown off the last vestiges of other’s expectations and allowed the primal, sexual beast to joyously spring free, without guilt, restraint or fear.

I have handed my lusts and desires over to my Master and it is pleasing to Him that these needs drive my actions and rock my hips. It is pleasing to Him that i serve with passion and bring heat to the simplest tasks. I do not need to fear others expectations and perceptions because i serve my Master.

In being released, i can now beg for the touches and attentions of a Master and as a kajira i accept their right to give or not, according to Their will. It has been a liberating realisation that *all* that i am, every aspect of who i am, creative, silly, primal, sexual, needy, inquisitive, intellectual can be used in some way to bring service and pleasure to the Free that i serve and the Owner who has claimed me.

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[ C O M M U N I T Y ]
✤ Gor ✤ Support ✤ Engagement ✤
“So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when they’re busy doing things they think are important. This is because they’re chasing the wrong things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives you purpose and meaning.”
— Mitch Albom

One of the greatest joys in being kajira is that it is not in isolation. my Owner enjoys to spend time alone with me, as happy to beat me (for now) at Zar as He is making use of my slave-heat slickened body. However, the transition from ‘submissive’ to ‘kajira’ has happened in community. Being surrounded by the beauty of other’s service, the trustworthy honour of Gorean men, the joy of sisterhood that has come with finding people with the same heart that burns in me has been transformational, It has shaped how i understand what i have to offer, the context of my Master’s expectations and the acceptance and embracing of both.

Service then, is not only to the Free, in whom i have found friendship and support, but also to the kajira who walk ahead of me and those who will come after. As my depth of submission and love grow, so too does my desire to edify and support my slave sisters, to contribute to the community in which i have flourished to ensure others may too. My responsibility to myself, my wholeness and wellbeing, becomes doubly important, not ‘just’ as Master’s property, but as His property engaging in community with other people.

 

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[ F U L L Y A L I V E ]

“Always say “yes” to the present moment. What could be more futile, more insane, than to create inner resistance to what already is? What could be more insane than to oppose life itself, which is now and always now? Surrender to what is. Say “yes” to life — and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.”
— Eckhart Tolle

To be kajira is to spring forth from the restrictions of societal expectations and surrender to the whirling pull of another’s Mastery. It is to serve, effort-fully, with unrestrained fire and heart, allowing love and reverence to push out anything that might hold you back. It is to embrace all that you have to offer and refine it, appreciating and celebrating your gifts so that they might bring joy and pleasure to the Free. It is to pursue wholeness and health because you are now the steward of someone else’s property. It is about being attentive, alert and flexible to the needs and wants of your Owner and the Free they wish you to serve.

It is acceptance, acceptance that this is who you are and where you belong so that you can live your very best life in service of those who would claim it.
Fliss Fairport | March 2020

The Book Sessions – Part 3 – The Slave Books (1)

Thursday, June 18, 2015

 

Gorean Philosophy Class Lecture (6.18.15)

As usual for this seminar, I will give a short opening talk to introduce our topic, and then will open the floor for questions and comments.  So, if you will hold the all until I finish, I will make sure everyone has a chance to speak.  Smiles and reaches for his notes.

Tal and Greetings Goreans,

Today in the third session of this ten session seminar, we will begin our discussion of a four book group of the classical Gorean novels.  This group is without a doubt extremely popular with female readers, and they are often the first books read, and sometimes the only books read by them.  I call them “The Slave Books” and they differ from the other 21 novels in that the narrator is a female.  The four books are as follows with the publishing dates:

Captive of Gor,   1972
Slave Girl of Gor, 1977
Kajira of Gor,        1983
Dancer of Gor,      1985

I put the last group of books into Second Life Gor terms to give a brief summary of the plots, so will do so again with these four books.  Put in the most simple SL terms, four girls hanging out in Earth sims, suddenly find themselves kidnapped and bought to Gor.   They go through various adventures, hang out at the Gor Hub, experiment with different cities, attend a school, and then begin to interact with Gorean Masters.   They get lied to, played, ignored, and even abandoned, before finally ending up with a great Gorean Master, who takes them off to his private Homestead Sim where they live happily ever after.   And that is pretty much the plots in a nutshell.

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When we talked about the early Tarl Cabot novels, we discussed the idea of progression from fantasy to reality; from a less serious ambiance to a much more serious one.   The Slave books do this even more so.   I have sometimes referred to them as steps in the understanding of Gorean slavery almost like the same math analogy we used with Tarl’s story.

Captive of Gor is arithmetic, Slave Girl is math, Kajira is Algebra, and Dancer is Advanced Calculus in that analogy.   Of course, if this is true, then the same problems exist for rp as with the Tarl books. Which level of Gorean slavery are you rp’ing?   The attitudes and behaviors and expectations of a Captive reader would differ muchly from a Dancer reader, if they were using those novels alone as the basis of their rp.   Just to illustrate this idea even more, lets look at the girls themselves.  Here is a quick look at the four girls and their backgrounds.

Elinor Brinton:  wealthy, beautiful, enjoying all the privileges of her sex and social position

Judy Thornton: an excellent student at an elite girl’s college

Tiffany Collin: works in a large department store

Doreen Williamson: a quiet and shy librarian

Although all the girls are described as attractive,  you can see how there is a change from an almost fantasy women to a more average women as the books go along.   Elinor Brinton, of Captive of Gor, is a fantasy character that women can not easily identify with, but would make the kind of avatar and back story that many new girls would choose.   It is unlikely, that many girls in SL Gor, being realistic, would be wealthy, beautiful women enjoying all the privileges of her sex and position.   I am sure there are some who are college students, even more that work in Walmarts, or other department stores or even more normal professions such as nursing and teaching.

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By Dancer, many, many, girls in SL Gor can identify with a quiet and shy librarian with erotic nighttime fantasies.   I have, of course, no statistical backing for this, but my experience in online Gor would indicate the truth of it.   The books are attacked often by critics of Gor as being demeaning to women, as being simply erotic college boy fantasies created by someone who was unable to get dates and so created this sex slave fantasy to get back at the girls that rejected him.   I have never gotten a sense of this from the readings of the books.   Although I admit to being prone to seeing hidden meaning, and symbolic examinations of failed Earth society on every page of the Gor novels, in the case of these books, it seems more clear than ever.

Here is what Tiffany has to say in Kajira of Gor, upon meeting her first Gorean man, in her department store on Earth:
“It was very strange.”
“I have never met a man of this sort before. Surely I had met many boys, and men, but this was the first time I had ever been so acutely aware of the difference, this special sort of difference, between women and men, or between women, and certain sorts of men…”
“He was different from the men with whom I was familiar.”
“He looked down upon me, and I felt very female before him. Perhaps that was what was so strange, my sudden disturbing sense of the radical difference between us, my sudden, alarming understanding of the momentous physical , psychological, and emotional dichotomy dividing us, dividing the sexes.”
“We are so different from them!”
“Can these radical disparities be truly meaningless?”
“And if they are not meaningless, what might they mean?”
“He was at ease with his sex, and his strength, and power.  There seemed a primitive, barbaric, unassuming lupine naturalness in him.  How uneasy I was.”
“Had he not been properly enculturated?”
“It seemed he had not been suitably socialized, reduced, crippled, tamed.  What right had he to exist in my culture?”  “I wondered if once, long ago, men had been such as he.”  Page 11 Kajira of Gor

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I am sorry, but this does not seem to be really concerned with demeaning women as much as demeaning the men of Earth, a much more constant theme in these novels and in all the Gor books.   Of Course, there is much about reducing women to property and beasts with no legal rights, but this is all done to create a paradigm totally different than Earth’s, a counter Earth view.   The Goreans had assholes, and jerks, and brutes, and bullies, and they did not really have to learn to deal with women for the most part, they simply enslaved them.

But, sorry, peeps, the message of the Gor novels, and of these four in particular, is not that this is a better way to deal with females/male relationships, but rather that certain truths exist and they apply to Earth where men are weak, and females tend to dominate most relationships, just the same as they apply to a barbaric world where men enslave women.   These Slave novels are not intended to be realistic stories.  They are modern fairy tales, where the girls show amazing flexibility and adaptability, overcoming increasingly hard and often unpleasant situations to eventually find their place at the side of a Man that embodies the qualities of maleness suitably strong to match their own female strengths.   The word “love” figures prominently in the final page of all of them.   All of them end with “lived happily ever after” endings.

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Of course, in Captive, these hardships are adventures, and often kinky and erotic, and are much like the Capture Sims here in SL, where men chase girls shooting arrows at them, and then drag them off for an hour or two of sexual rp.   While later, in Dancer, these hardships involve being owned by disgusting men or in Slave Girl, where they involved being raped by asshole young boys.

In book after book, the girls are the real heroes.   They are pulled out of their comfort zones, thrown into desperate situations, and somehow they fight through it to find their true loves and end up cuddled up at their feet.  Fairy Tales.  And yet, the women of online Gor have, over the years, told me of their real life stories, full of cheating men, liars, and abusers, and men who act like little boys, and fail again and again to act with basic honor.   Many of the girls who have been in online Gor for some time have similar stories here, of deceit, and abandonment.   They struggle to find their place in a strange society and yet, like the girls in the novels, they never give up the search for that “right Man.”   So, are the books really demeaning to women?  Or are they actually demeaning to men.   The idea that if men would ever finally act like men, girls do not need months of classes to learn how to act like females, is a theme repeated again and again in these novels.   Many might view these four books as demeaning to women, but when you finally come to understand the message of them, they are much more demeaning to men.  And like all the Gor novels, are really a call to Men, to man up, and then , you might be surprised at what you might find at your side, or for some, even at their feet.

Love Slave

Next week, we will continue on this discussion of the Slave novels.  Puts down his notes.

Casual Sex

The Gorean Compass is a class given every Thursday by Master Gorm Runo.  Classes are held at the Gorean Campus and are given at noon and 6pm SLT.  All are encouraged to come and join in the amazing discussions.

Tal and greetings
There is a movie that was released quite a few years ago called “Quest for Fire.”
Desmond Morris, the author of “The Naked Ape”, who has been mentioned in this seminar from time to time was the technical advisor on the film.
The story is set way back in prehistoric times when our species was still struggling against another groups of humanoids for survival.  In a battle against a very ape-like tribe called the Wagabou, the tribe loses their glowing coals that enable them to start a fire for warmth and protection.  Since they have no idea how to make fire, they must send some young men out to try to steal it from another group.
quest for fire
It is an interesting movie, beautifully photographed.
I am mentioning it today, however, because of one scene that was on my mind as I prepared this talk.  The three young men have rescued a young girl from a more advanced group.  The leader is sort of love struck over this girl, and when she runs away to return to her own people, he follows her to bring her back, much to the disgust of the other two men who have stolen fire now and are ready to return home.
The leader’s foolishness turns out to be good luck because the advanced tribe teaches him the secret of actually making fire by rubbing sticks together.
On their way home, they are sitting around a fire at night, when the young girl’s needs come upon her, and she starts moaning and twisting around in obvious sexual arousal.  One of the men sees her and he reacts with arousal, and grabs her, pulling her to him for sexual release.
The girl pulls away, and goes the leader, who, also being aroused, begins to position her for his use.  The other two men show their unhappiness, but acceptance of this, but when the leader goes to consummate the act, the girl insists on turning around.  For those familiar with operating Second Life pose ball menus, she doesn’t select “doggy style”, but rather what is known as the missionary style.
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When the two men see this , they react with total disgust and shake their heads sadly.
In appears to them that the leader is so confused about his feelings that he can’t even remember how he is supposed to have sexual intercourse.
I could definitely see Desmond Morris’ influence on that amusing scene.
He believed sexuality in primitive humans was most likely such a natural biological function that it was treated as casually as eating or drinking, or the removal of bodily wastes.
No one would have made a big deal out it, but if it wasn’t a strong and persistent urge in us, we would not have been reproducing enough to give our species a chance to survive.
Reproduction is an essential element of life as any beginning biology student will tell you.
This act of turning around during the sex act, so the man actually had some idea of who he was with was symbolic of the changing of sex from a basic biological urge into something totally different.
Although it appears other species have mates that they remain with for life, we humans have turned basic reproduction into something totally different.
There have been several good documentaries done on “The History of Sex” and when you watch them, you can see a continuing trend even in the historical period of our feelings and attitudes on sex and reproduction changing and evolving constantly in a direction where we were taking it much more seriously, and seeing it much less as a biological function.
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Many factors played into this.  Many religions began to make chastity a virtue.  The idea of “bloodlines” and the passing on of titles and such led to the importance of a man insuring that a child was actually his child.   Even the idea of family which seems to be natures way of making sure the human child is cared for long enough to develop the large brain that would enable us to become the dominant species on the planet, seems to have had an influence on how we viewed sex and the sexual relationship between males and females.
You would think that after millions and millions of years of steady progress, we would have really refined sex to the point we have it right now.
But, we don’t.
It is really in total chaos.  It has become so confused in modern society that we are debating the number of possible genders and each month seems to bring a new letter onto the LGBTQetcetcetc. letter train.
Divorce rates are staggering.  Single parent homes are way too common.  And most insidious of all, sexual attraction has moved to the top spot in the “what really matters” list replacing such less important items such as trust, and respect, and responsibility.
Today, a man could be in a relationship with a woman and be an abusive, unemployed, low life lying scum bag, and that would be only mildly disapproved of, but let him stick his dick in another woman, and that is the deal breaker, and everyone would finally start to boo and hiss and advise the girl to leave him and go out and find another scum bag, but one who won’t “cheat on her.”
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And this is why sex is so casual in Gor.  We are the Counter-Earth.  I have pointed out before that this expression doesn’t really just mean it is on the other side of the Sun.  It means that it is taking the worse things about Earth culture and showing alternatives.
And our Earth attitudes about sex are one of the worse things about our culture.
However, we are not a struggling species fighting for survival anymore, and such things as sexually transmitted disease, and unwanted pregnancy still shape our behaviors despite birth control and protection.    So, an open casual free sex world is not possible on Earth.
What made it more possible on Gor was the advancement of medical knowledge because the Priest-Kings insisted they concentrate on that rather than making faster tanks or more powerful guns.   Slave wine was an easy and fail proof birth control, and disease had been almost eradicated.
Second Life Gor.that wonderfull fantasy world that is not really Earth, and not really on another planet, has given us our Counter-Earth chance.
When a man is sitting in a tavern and sends his slave girl to serve a friend a bowl of paga, that friend might very well throw the girl over his shoulder and take her to an alcove and screw the hell out of her, and then, when finished, bring her back, with a happy smile on her face, and send her back to her owner.
You certainly don’t see that happening in your friendly neighborhood bar.
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When you first think of this interaction, you might think it is many things.  It seems very degrading to the slave.  She is just a piece of meat obviously, causally shared.  Also, how can there be any kind of “love” or “affection” between a Man and his slave if he is not wanting to beat her up, or kill his friend, because she had a happy smile on her face coming from the alcove?
This scenario is so Counter-Earth, that we view it solely as a sort of soft porn role play that shows how this unfeeling Gorean assholes would act, but do not see any symbolic meaning in it, nor do we see how it can also be a positive thing available to us in Second Life Gor.
Because if Earth Culture is making sex the be all and end all of every relationship, then Gor will make it casual and not that big a deal.    With sex leading the list on Earth, people are forgetting that honor, respect, trust, responsibility, loyalty, commitment, and a host of other noble things are more important then the friction of flesh against flesh.
In the Gorean world, with sex being casual, we are cut loose from the trap and begin to think a bit more on the other things that matter way more, and are much more lasting than physical attractions.
This has not worked perfectly here.  We bring our baggage with us.  Jealousy and possessiveness, and even the inability of some to treat sex, even pose ball cyber sex, as something casual and detach themselves a bit from the emotional responses have led us to create a sort of Earthy Gor that misses the mark in this area.
We complain that Gor is “all about sex”, or we complain that we aren’t getting enough sex.  Everything negative about sexual relations on Earth is too often used to structure and understand sexuality in our Second Life Gorean interactions.
We have a chance to really recreate something here.  We can lower sex back to its proper place, and enjoy the hell out it, without letting it become the guide and compass of our life.
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We can do this is relative safety.  No one gets and unwanted child or a venereal disease from cyber sex.
I say relative safety, because emotional responses can still be very strong, until you learn to do it with the right perspective. and people can be hurt emotionally even in the role play of this loose sexuality.
But, as we continue to repeat here in the seminar, Second Life is the big kids playground, and you better be prepared.   All your confusion and past experiences, and conditioning, and baggage will be with you here, and you have to be tough to not only navigate it safely, but to actually learn something positive about yourself, and about what really matters.
And the truth is, beauty fades, passion based purely on sex burns out, but trust and respect, and maturity, and loyalty are the real building blocks of a lasting relationship
The man in the tavern above, could lend the pussy of that slave to his friend, for a short time of fun, but he can not lend her love,,,,   he can command her to go to the alcove and serve him, but he can not command her to respect him while she is there, or to feel trust in him.
I don’t think Second Life Gor is ‘all about sex.”   But, I am glad there is a lot of it and I encourage you all to engage in even more.   When we put it back in its natural place, we will be free to spend more time examining the important things again.
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Maybe, we will find that the happy smile on the slave girl’s face when she returned from the alcove was that she was returning to the feet of the Master who she loved, trusted, and respected, and who she knew trusted her as well.
Wouldn’t that be a nice Counter Earth feeling.

How did Collean find Gor?

I first arrived in Second life in 2008. I went to the usual watering holes. I stood around with everyone else looking for something. It all seemed rather boring to me. One day, a good friend said “Come to Gor with me” I had no clue what Gor was, but on his recommendation I donned a set of silks and off we went.

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First city we landed in was the old Port Kar. What a sight to behold! There were people everywhere. There were men with kilts and swords, women with long dresses and many dressed like me. It was like – coming home. It completed a part of me that I didn’t realize needed to be completed. A Master collared me and the adventures began.

I began to read the novels to round out what I was seeing here in this amazing world. My Master and I were together for nearly three years until he left for the City of Dust. Devastated, I left Second life, deleted my avatar and thought I would never be back.
There is an old saying “never say never” Gor has this pull that to a lucky few resides within. I missed Gor, so I started new in 2015 and came back again as a slave. I am naturally submissive and this fits me perfectly. It hasn’t been easy since I’ve returned. I’ve had several Masters. Two abandoned me, two turned me over to a slaver, one left Second life, and one was abusive. Through it all I never gave up.


During these various Owners I would visit Caer Cadarn and sometimes I would bring my current Master with me but frequently I came alone. Caer Cadarn always had this special feeling about it. From the first it felt like home. I had to leave Second Life due to health issues and was gone nearly a year. When I returned my home and Master were gone. The first place I went to was Caer Cadarn. I was welcomed and given a home. It is what I have searched for since I first landed in Gor. I am home. My advice to anyone that might read this and is unsure. Come to Gor, see what its about. Read the books by John Norman. Come to Caer Cadarn.

Gorean Compass – Tribalism

The Gorean Compass is a class given every Thursday by Master Gorm Runo.  Classes are held at the Gorean Campus and are given at noon and 6pm SLT.  All are encouraged to come and join in the amazing discussions.


Tal and greetings

I have been thinking on the idea of tribalism, this week.   My investigation and research led to some very interesting articles that have recently been written on the subject.  A look for an online definition yielded this:

noun
noun: tribalism
the state or fact of being organized in a tribe or tribes.
derogatory
the behavior and attitudes that stem from strong loyalty to one’s own tribe or social group.
“a society motivated by cultural tribalism”

sectarianism, chauvinism; esprit de corps
“the latest waves of violence were blamed on tribalism”

I found it interesting that they included a “derogatory” definition that didn’t seem at all derogatory to me.  “The behavior and attitudes that stem from strong loyalty to one’s own tribe or social group” did not strike me as derogatory at all, but they added a “use it in a sentence” example that cast it definitely in a negative light.

“The latest waves of violence were blamed on tribalism”     Yeah, that is an unbiased example.

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There is no question that the Gorean society was very tribal.  In one of the later books, we are reminded of the idea that the Goreans do not understand the concept of “arbitrary borders.”   And the very first book, Tarnsman of Gor, features a classic conflict between the idea of the “nation state” and the smaller city states that reflects the conflict on Earth between the unifying idea of ‘one world” and “tribalism.”

At the time, John Norman was writing the early Gor novels, the one world idea was still on the rise, and once again, he seemed a bit prophetic in predicting the conflict and the rise of tribalism.   In an essay written in 2014, Robert Reich wrote an essay entitled. “Tribalism is tearing America apart.”

He says,

“The nation state, meanwhile, is coming apart. A single Europe – which seemed within reach a few years ago – is now succumbing to the centrifugal forces of its different languages and cultures. The Soviet Union is gone, replaced by nations split along tribal lines. Vladimir Putin can’t easily annex the whole of Ukraine, only the Russian-speaking part. The Balkans have been Balkanized.
Separatist movements have broken out all over — Czechs separating from Slovaks; Kurds wanting to separate from Iraq, Syria, and Turkey; even the Scots seeking separation from England.”
—–Robert Reich,  article in Salon.com.

This all made sense to me as a “Gorean”, because the more I read, the more I understood that tribalism was an evolutionary successful trait that contributed to the rise of humans as the dominant species and like many other such traits was being discarded by modern society to its great peril.

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I came across this little tidbit of information in the Wikipedia article on Tribalism.
“According to a study by Robin Dunbar at the University of Liverpool, primate brain size is determined by social group size.[14] Dunbar’s conclusion was that most human brains can really understand only an average of 150 individuals as fully developed, complex people. That is known as Dunbar’s number. ”
One of the results of this little bit of exploration into a definition, especially by one such a myself, so inclined toward seeing symbolism in the early novels, was that I suddenly felt I understood a bit of the symbolism in the book Outlaw of Gor.   This is the second book in the series, and a hotbed of symbolic meanings with its drab female controlled city of Tharna.
In the book, Tarl is imprisoned in the mines of Tharna, chained to a collection of men, mostly strangers, and they are fed like swine from a feeding trough.
Tarl insists they act with order, and control, and rules, and respect, and distribute the food in an orderly manner.  This is the turning point for mankind. No longer would we be a pack of animals snarling at one another as we tore at scraps of meat.
And in this symbolic story of man’s rise from the depths (mines) of the animal to the civilized heights of the rational, Tarl lays out his Gorean version of tribalism.
“Little by little, I tried to restore the self-respect of my fellow slaves. It began simply enough at the feeding trough.  Then I began to encourage them to speak to one another, and to call one another by their names, and their cities, and though there were men of different cities there, they shared the same chain and trough, and they accepted one another.

When one man was ill, others saw that his ore sack was filled. When one man was beaten, others would pass water from hand to hand that his wounds might be bathed, that he might drink though the chain did not allow him to the water.  And in time, each of us knew the others who shared his chain.  We were no longer dark, anonymous shapes to one another, huddling in the dampness of the mines of Tharna.  In time only Ost remained frightened by this change, for he continually feared the flooding of the chamber.

My chain of men worked well, and the quota was filled day after day, and when it was raised, it was filled again. Sometimes even, the men would hum as they worked, the strong sound resonant in the tunnels of the mine.”
pages 157-158   Outlaw of Gor

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This clearly lays out the vision of Gorean tribalism.  Note first that it contains no word of the color of one’s skin, or the geographical location of his home, nor of even family ties of blood.  The tribalism is based solely on the sharing of the chain.
This is what the Gorean tribe is all about in a nutshell.  Especially, the Gorean tribe that gathers here in Second Life.  People claim that humans are constantly evolving into higher and more rational, spiritual beings, and it is true.  But, we should be doing so in a controlled and respectful manner, altering and improving our basic natures, but never seeking to deny them.
So, our tribalism has evolved quite a long way from the days when we killed strangers because they looked different or came from a different part of the valley.  But, we have retained the positive and successful aspects of tribalism.  People log into second life, and they are, at first, dark anonymous shapes to us, but the order and structure of Gor, and the codes and laws that bind us together as a tribe and community soon shine light on that darkness.
We are of the same chain.   Think of that concept and what it means.  We are so different, so unique, and so complex that it is said we can only truly know 150 others totally.  But, we are socially oriented creatures, too.  We have evolved to our current state by cooperation and not by being alone.
We are of the same chain.   We tend to gather in groups that share our values, or have suffered similar misfortunes, or dreamed similar dreams.  We look for totems that represent what we share and have in common with others and we cling to those totems.
I am suggesting that the Second Life community has become a tribe in the truest definition of the word.  It would behoove us to explore the ideas of tribalism further, and look for ways that we can use it to make our online interactions even more fruitful and positive.

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It will not be easy to do this because the basic conflict is between one world thinking and tribal thinking, and we are awash in our RL life with the idea we are all the same and the individual is really unimportant,  And tribal thinking tells us we are all different and important, but we need to get along and cooperate despite that fact.
In the coming classes this month, we will look at some of the ideas of tribalism and will have a look at John Norman’s book “Time Slave” and how it relates and differs from his Gor novels.   We will have a class just on how men relate to other men in a tribal vs. a non-tribal culture.
I am looking forward to the discussions that this should provoke, because I think we are going to be attacking some sacred cows and exposing some deep philosophical rifts.  Which is exactly the goal of these seminars.  And it should benefit us all, because, we are all of the same chain, after all.  Or are we?

Different hands form a tower

A Brand New HOR – The Advancement of Mari

The House of Runo slaves undergo a rigorous training program in order to become full fledged HOR slaves.  The training consists of learning the ways of the house, learning to serve and learning what is expected of a HOR pleasure slave.  Very few have accomplished all the steps and met all the requirements.  That is why we are very excited to announce the newest graduate of the first level of HOR training and the newest full fledged HOR pleasure slave….Mari!

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Congratulations Mari!  She now joins a very carefully selected group.

As a HOR slave she is considered to be one of the best of the best.  After working her way through each lesson and improving in her abilities to be exquisitely beautiful and completely obedient (and I might add pleasing) she was presented to Master Gorm Runo as a candidate for advancement.  Master Gorm Runo looked over the evidence and agreed.

So preparations were made and the other slaves of the House of Runo brought mari up to the Caer – the place of collaring and advancement – a sacred place within The House of Runo.  There mari and the other slaves waited for the Masters that would be involved to appear.

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tiggy, rhiannon, mari and tabi waiting for Master at the Caer

Once Master Gorm Runo arrived the ceremony began.  In attendance was also The House of Runo head guardsman Master Draco.

Caer HomeStone: for in the vacinity of their Home Stones, men fight with all the courage, savagery and resourcefulness of the mountain larl.

Gorm Runo: mari, in all my experience , I have learned that the thing earned is the thing of more value. Many times, girls have knelt among these stones, and received the recognition of being known as a HOR slave. And despite the little play on words of those letters, it stood for the House of Runo, and Goreans who were dedicated to being the best.

It seemed fitting that we made a girl earn that tag. To show enough interest to actually work for it. You are already a beacon, girl. And even more importantly, your real training begins now. basic training is over, and now we will see if you are an “elite” slave like these girls around you.

— The Oath —

Gorm Runo: Do you submit yourself totally now, as a slave girl, to the House of Runo, and to its goal of excellence?
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mari: “yes Master with all my heart and body I desire to be found to be worthy of such Master.”

— A NEW HOR IS BORN!! CONGRATS!! —

rħiᾱὴὴoὴ: bounces on her knees .. “congratulations mari .. a wonderful day for you and for the HoR!”
Gorm Runo: and now, tabi, just the blood initiation thing. I always hate that part. “shivers”
TABI:giggles… well, she was forewarned!
mari: bites her lower lip softly but holds her position.
Ϯɪ͠ĝʟɛϮϮ: tilts head back and woots loudly “Congrats mari… never more truly deserved!! Well done!”

 

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The traditional belly dance of the new HOR slave!

Gorm Runo: I hope this girl is just the first of many that will make our House known across all of Gor as the place where Gorean slaves are trained. kajira and we have a lot of work to do, too, don’t we girls?
rħiᾱὴὴoὴ: “Yes Master!”
Ϯɪ͠ĝʟɛϮϮ: always Master!!
mari : smiles “Yes Master

And thus The House of Runo grows and flourishes.  Currently there are three more girls undergoing training.  Our hopes is they will all follow in mari’s footsteps and achieve the lofty goal of HOR slave!

Gorean Compass – We Are Only Human

The Gorean Compass is a class given every Thursday by Master Gorm Runo.  Classes are held at the Gorean Campus and are given at noon and 6pm SLT.  All are encouraged to come and join in the amazing discussions.


Tal and Greetings

I want to start off today with one of my favorite book quotes.  It comes from the end of the book, Raiders of Gor, and has always been of interest to me because the Speaker is Samos of Port Kar. Now, Samos is one of the few characters that we get to see often in the book series who is actually born and raised on Gor.

Most of the people in the books who give us long and detailed philosophical musings are not native born Goreans, but were raised and conditioned by their Earth culture before discovering Gor.  Despite what our role play back stories might claim in our “Picks”, all of us have had the same pathway.  We see the Gorean world through Earth conditioned lenses, like Tarl Cabot, and Jason Marshall, and the pretty young girls who narrate the “slave girl” books see it.

So, Samos is an exception, and when Samos speaks, I listen closely.

“The human being,” he said, “is a chaos of cruelties and nobilities, of hatreds and loves, of resentment and respect, of envies and admirations. He contains within himself, in his ferments, much that is base and much that is worthy.  These are old truths, but few men truly understand them.”

Page 308   Raiders of Gor

and a couple of pages later, he continues:

“When you lost your images of yourself, and learned your humanity, in your diverse ways, and shame, you abandoned your myths, your songs, and would accept only the meat of animals, as though one so lofty as yourself must be either Priest-King or beast.  Your pride demanded either the perfection of the myth or the perfection of its most villainous renunciation.  If you were not the highest, you would be nothing less than the worst; if there was not myth, there was to be nothing.”  Samos now spoke softly.  “There is something,” he said, “between the fancies of poets and the biting and the rooting and the sniffling of beasts.”
“What?” I asked.
“Man, ” he said.

Page 311 Raiders of Gor

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I guess among the reasons this quote is one of my favorites, especially when preparing classes on the “Philosophy of Second Life Gor”, is the fact that it encapsulates the Nietzche influence in the Gorean novels perfectly.   The pathway, he argued, to the superior human began with the rejection of “myth”, which would be followed by nihilism.  Exactly like Samos is expressing it here.  When you no longer believe that moral authority comes from some supernatural higher order, than the next step is to believe that there is no such thing as moral authority at all.  Nothing has meaning

And then, comes the Gorean realization, that moral authority doesn’t necessarily come from commandments written in holy scrolls.  It comes from inside each individual.

I often struggle how to explain this idea especially to people who hold religious beliefs.

They might tell me that I should behave a certain way because “the good book” tells me I should behave that way, and I tell them it is like a chicken and the egg thing, because I think I should behave that way because it is the “right” way to behave.    The Codes, we talk of so much in Gor, are much the same way.   The Warrior does not adhere to the Codes, for example, because they are the Codes, he adheres to them because they are proper way for a warrior to behave.   Of course, it is always good to have the “rules” match one’s own perception of what is right and wrong.

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Now, this is all very simple and straight forward, but the problem comes when we fuck up.

And we all do, sooner or later.  For Goreans, it is usually sooner, because we are told to set high standards, and adhere to strict Codes, and behave in an unselfish manner that advances the entire human race, and for males to accept the responsibility for the fulfillment of our females even, and with all that pressure on us, we are going to eventually slip up.

This is where our Earth conditioning is hurting us, and we would be wise to listen closer to Samos’ words.    The advancement of victimization and the abandonment of personal responsibility so common in modern day Earth culture leads us to react to our own failures by placing the blame on something other than ourselves.   The sinner is quick to deny God, and the coward mocks the Codes.  If the rules are broken, it must be because the rules were wrong.

I always say that we should not use “we are only human” as a justification for failure and especially not for bad behavior.   But, “we are only human” is an explanation for why it happens.  There is much in all of us that is base and much that is worthy.  There is something between the fictions of perfection and myth, and the rooting of beasts.

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Many years ago, when I got my first understanding of this concept, it had to do with the “failure of slave girls” which had become an online Gor issue.  A website had been started where ex-online slave girls who had “failed” could go to heal or something, and as I thought on it, the light bulb went off.    That website should have been called “The Quitters” or maybe, “Exit Here”, because the only way a slave girl could fail was to quit.  She could make a million mistakes, and many of them might come close to that mark, but they could only “fail” if they quit.

This applies to us all.  We are all going to screw up and fall short of standards.  We are especially susceptible to it because we do set our standards high and have Codes that are strict and unselfish.  Resist the urge to attack the Song, when the problem is the singer.

When I look back on my life, this lesson resonates very strongly.  I have done much I am ashamed of having done, and I have fallen short of my own codes and standards more times than I like to admit,  But, I have not given up.

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Second Life Gor fits into that first quote.  There is much in it that is good and much that sucks.  There is much to admire and much to abhor.  Maybe this isn’t such a bad thing though.  Maybe that is what makes Second Life Gor so real, and so addictive to us.   We would love to see the myth, a perfect world filled with extraordinary people doing amazing things, but many of us fear it is a cesspool filled with the dregs and predators of the internet.  I would like to think it is actually hanging in a balanced middle ground, and maybe that is where it not only should be, but realistically, it is the only place it could be.